Saturday, December 16, 2006

The Dash of Life


I am Kristoffer Afable…I was born on May 19, 1986, and as of this writing, I am 20 years old. If I’ll die, my tombstone would have the dates of my birth and death together, right? Let’s say, May 20, 1986-___________...

Its not that I’m in a hurry to die, and I’m pretty sure of myself that I don’t want to die soon, especially now that I’m seeing life in a whole new way, and I now have more reasons to live. What I am trying to focus myself on right now is what the “dash” between a birth date and the death date.

I heard this from my philosophy professor, and she told us that the dash for her is called the “dash of life”. Indeed, I agreed to what she said. It is indeed a dash that shows the beginning of life, the life itself and the end of it of a person.

I am pretty sure that everyone considers their birth as important and special. It is through the grace of God, with the intervention of our parents, that we are born. That’s why its so special, isn’t it? And along with this, I am also pretty sure that we consider death as something, somehow “inevitable”, in the sense that we know it to come, and its coming would signal the end of us (well…us in the physical world, that is).

But that is not the center of this short reflection. Our birth has already past, and our death can come sometime later. What is more important is where and what we have at present…here and alive. I think that is what the dash represents: the gap between the beginning and end of life: our life itself.

At this point, I would like to post this question: “How is my/your life right now?”

Of course, we don’t know the time when we will die, right? However, as we course through our lives right now, let us remind ourselves that what we do now is more important than the things that we’re gonna do when we are nearing death. I just hope that there will be less, if inevitable, remorse to the fact that we did less when we’re still young, when we approach death.

Life is indeed what we make out of it. It’s up to us, largely up to us, what happens to our lives. If we want to say that life is indeed beautiful, we have to work for it. Gone maybe are the times that we, “in a snap of a finger”, have beautiful or comfortable lives. What we do in our lives, or even with our selves, determines the future that ourselves and our lives will meet.

Indeed, I say that both birth and death are important. Yet that which is in between: life, which matters the most. Why? Because I think, in the end of our journey in this life, we will face our God and Creator and he will ask: “How did you use the life that I handed to you?”

Was my life at this point wasted?
How can I use this gift wisely?

There are many ways…and man, with the unlimited possibilities and potentialities given to him, has his whole life in front of him to see it. And as man journeys, he does not only learn what to do in life…he shares it with others. He does not only share, he is also shared with what others has.
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Life is indeed short, and negligence of it is inexcusable. Some may see that they’re still young to be too serious about life. But being aware of life and everything in it does not take into consideration on how old or young someone can be.

Ei, I would like to invite you to look into your life this time…and see, maybe there are things that we need to change. Or improve. Or remove. Or anything. The dash of life is our bridge between our birth and death. If it is not strong, we may fall too soon.

GOD BLESS EVERYONE!

THE SUN AND MAN

The sun…
Up in the sky
Shining so bright
Gives light and heat to everything

Man…
Down here
Stays in the dark
Brings gloom and coldness to others…

I can say that somehow, you would agree with what I say about the sun, but not of man. I know…and I am just being sarcastic. But hey, isn’t it true that sometimes, man is like that? I am a man, so sometimes I am just like that.
But there is one thing that I would like to look at this point. There is one similarity among many between the sun and man…as seen and said by my philosophy teacher. (thanks, ma’am!)
“The sun has its spots, but it doesn’t make the sun less brighter…”
What am I talking about here?
Imperfections, that is…
We are aware that all of us have imperfections, right? And these imperfections make us human. If we are perfect, we are like GOD. But we are not.
Frailty, shortcomings, sins, and things similar to these are things that we don’t share with GOD. We, humans as such, have these. But how do we see these? What do we do about it?
As I see it, don’t let our imperfections get the best of us. Are we so weak so as to let ourselves be swallowed by the darkness of our imperfections? I think not. Because along with our imperfections, GOD gave us many things for us to bring ourselves closer to him, and closer to the perfection that he has. Let’s face it, we can never be like GOD, but having the thought of us sharing His glory, makes us happy within, and without.
I would now like to ask you to look at the sun. (Hey, not like that? You might get blinded! Don’t be like Galileo, ok?) Imagine the image of the sun. It is so bright, isn’t it? Yet, science proved that though the sun is so bright, there are many dark spots in it, emitting less or no heat at all. Yet somehow we still find it difficult look at it directly.
I think, this is the time that we aim to be like the sun (not in everything, ok?) it is bright, although with some spots in it. Shine like the sun for others, but do not blind them. Give light to others. And though we have our imperfections in us, being aware of them, understanding them and using them as challenges and means to help others; makes us shine…
Shine for ourselves…shine for others…shine for GOD.

TANGA…ANGAT

Last November 25-28, 2006, I attended the PACSA, or the Philippine Association of Campus Student Advisers Seminar and Student Leaders Workshop on Student Leadership. I was chosen from our school, being the VP-Internal, with the President and the Student Affairs’ Officer, to attend the said event.
Generally, I can say that the experience in Baguio was good, well…except for the fact that there were many “ehem” there…You see, I am not much comfortable with those calling themselves the “third sex”. But that doesn’t mean that I despise them.
But that is not the point of my blog here. I would like to focus on the title…Tanga…Angat. I came across these two words on the first topic on the second day of the seminar. Our speaker is Sir Al Ian Barcelona. It was a topic on REAL Leadership.
He said in one point of the discussion that, “Look at the words tanga and angat. They have the same set of letters arranged differently, right? But look here…I can say that, ‘Kaya maraming tanga, dahil konti lang ang nag-aangat!’” Upon hearing this, the whole population in the said seminar agreed and clapped their hands in amazement.
I, for my part, was amazed as well. And along with it, I was given an opportunity to reflect on this. Indeed, I think he is right in saying that.
Maraming tanga…konting nag-aangat.
Isn’t it true nowadays?
Maybe.
But I cannot deny the fact that these can be one of the reasons why some of us are feeling down, or even alone. Because they feel that no one cares for them. Or no one gives a damn about them. Isn’t it true that nowadays, people are just living for themselves? I know this is generally seen, yet, somehow, it is true. People nowadays seem to care more about their welfare that that of others. And since I am a person who belongs to the people, I cannot make myself an exception. I admit, sometimes I am only seeking for my own happiness and comfort.
I know…the issue of practicality. Well, others may say that, “How can I give something to someone if I don’t have it in myself?” “Nemo dat quod non habet”. Right. However, how long will you be concentrating on yourself until the time comes that you can say that you can already give to others?
I would like to call on for others who are a stranger to another to cease being a stranger. I would like to call on friends of particulars to spread out and touch those who are left out. Sir Al also said that, “…we are meant to touch another person’s shoulder”. How many times have we done that? How many times have we left our comfort zones to reach out in unfamiliar lands?
Which is greater, those times that we lifted people up, or those times that we push people down? Tayo ba ang nag-aangat, o tayo ang gumagawa ng mga tanga?
This goes out to all…think. Are we the ones who lifts people, or buries them? There is still time to change that. Remember, what we do to other people may consciously or unconsciously affect them, in one way or another. And that goes for ourselves too.
First, let us think…are we those who are the “nag-aangat”, or those belonging to the “tanga”?
Then…let us think, and act in necessity, “Have I been able to lift others, or have I become someone who pushes them down?”
We can never live alone. Who you are is somehow caused by them, and vice-versa.
GOD BLESS EVERYONE!

I AM A HOMO…

I am a homo…a man.
And man, as seen generally, is…

A homo viator…
A man on journey.
Journey of life.
Through its ups and downs, successes and falls, happiness and sadness…
In short, everything.

A homo faber…
A man on work.
Work of life.
Working to live for self, working to live for other people, working for life..

A homo socialis…
A man on society.
Society of man.
A man living in a society of those similar to him…
Sharing the same life, even if there are different dreams, aspirations, or state of living..

A homo sapiens…
A man of thought.
Thought given by God to use well
To think, to decide, to feel, to live…

Man is a compendium or collection of all these, and so much more…But, are we…really?

“Good, philosophically defined, is that which acts or is acted upon according to its essence, and thus fulfilling its essence.”

Are we fulfilling our essence? If not, we can be rightly called animals, right?

Just a thought…

KNOW…NOT KNOW

“The more I know…the more I do not know”

Somehow, I believe this. Why?

I don’t want to imply that I know so much, yet the capacity and “amount” of what I know pushes me to know more. To know more that is still beyond my reach. David Hume said that somehow, when we think about one thing, others spring about and thus, information and knowledge becomes wider and wider.

Let’s place it simply as this: Somehow, when we are able to know or understand something, we also have that equal or greater desire to know more of what we know. This is exemplified by our continuous search of knowledge. However great the knowledge did the world know, those who are living in it is in their unending search for knowing more and knowing better.

However, one question is asked: With everything that the world knows now, does it change them? Or placing it in a particular level, how am I changed by the things that I know?

We are not to deny the fact that the world changes us in one way or another. We are of the world…I am of the world. But that doesn’t mean that the world owns me, and would decide with what I make up of my life. By the way, when I say “world” here, it means everything in it: especially the other man besides oneself.

I admit that the world changes me…it changed me and continuously changes me, that somehow completes the me now. However, the world doesn’t decide on what I would get to do with my life. I still have my own somehow…What I think is more important here is that what we do of the changes that the world gives to us…whether we have it as something that would make us, or break us...

The more I gain the intellectual union of the subject and object (knowledge)…the more I do not know of it…

There goes man’s continuous path of learning…never ending, always fruitful…

THOUGHTFUL THOUGHTS…LA LANG!

1.) We fear what we don’t understand

2.) Si fallor ergo, sum…If I err, I am.

3.) Just a question…what motivates us in the things we do?

4.) Do we end up saying at times, “Neither did I know it then…nor do I know it know”?

5.) Our lives can change with every breath that we take…(from the movie Where the Heart is)

6.) The more intelligent you are, the more sensitive you are.

I got these with what I read, I heard, or from other people sharing their thoughts with me, most of them are my classmates in philosophy. Well, I just hope I can really understand the totality of these things. But for now, I think I’ll settle for what I understood. I can’t force truth to come out in an instant, right?
GOD BLESS EVERYONE!

Critics and Life…

For the first semester of my stay here in Don Bosco Canlubang, I was asked in one of my philosophy subjects to present a synthesis paper of our course. I just want to share this one. I know this is not that comprehensive or full, however, I hope this can be seen as a means to subjecting ourselves in thinking, and understanding that everyone of us are into these issues that we have to see.

1.) Knowledge and Truth
“Knowledge is the cognitive union between the subject and the object, or it is between the intellect and reality.”
“Truth, on the other hand, is the relation of conformity between the subject and the object.”
People need not to be philosophers, or in our case, students of philosophy, to see what both knowledge and truth have to do with our everyday lives. How so? Ever since we are born, we are already flooded with so many amounts of knowledge and information from different sources, like our families, media and many more. Information and knowledge also comes from a wide variety of classes and divisions. Thus, as we grow (older and wiser), we tend to absorb whatever knowledge has been given available to us.
Culture, education, tradition, communication…these are some sources from where our knowledge comes from. These, however, if subjected to critical reflection (to be discussed later), would be questionable. Are these things that we know, as we know it, true?
Whatever information or knowledge that has been transmitted or given to us by the sources given above are not altogether true. I think that is why there is the need of knowing truth.
How can we know that what we cognitively unified has a relation of conformity?
Sometimes, we tend to fall into “false knowledge” leading us to “false truths”. Still, how do we know that what we know is either true or false?
In my own experience, I know that what I know is based on what the world offered me to know. I cannot deny the fact that all of the knowledge that I gained, from the time I first started to learn, is based on the sources available. Besides, how can anyone know anything if it is not available for knowing? (such in the case of divine knowledge?)”
Indeed, knowledge is really just around. Especially in this age of technology and where information is just in one touch of a button, there is really need to question both the validity of knowledge and its conformity to truth.
Man, in his nature, is in constant search of knowledge. However, he searches not only knowledge. In this time and situation, man is also in search for truth. Actually, being a philosopher or a student of philosophy is not a prerequisite for one in search of truth.

2.) Critical Reflection
In the first chapter of our study in Critics, I learned that knowledge is validated using the mind. And knowledge is in the mind. So, knowledge in the mind is validated using the mind itself.
However, there is a real known danger to it. It is the fear and danger of being biased. Our mind, in its continuing process of accepting, processing and giving away information (or knowledge) tends to adhere to a specific “foundation” or principle, where from it, it derives whatever it accepts and believes in. it is also from this foundation wherein one decides that a particular knowledge is to be accepted, or rejected.
It sounds quite absurd, however, it is explained that there is no other way to validate the mind instead with the use of the mind itself. How so? It is with the use of critical reflection, of which philosophers, or students of philosophy, love to do. Why? It is because they seek wisdom and truth.
Critical reflection, as I understood it, is the process wherein one subjects knowledge in the mind into an unbiased process wherein the result would be the unbiased critique of whatever knowledge we have, and it answers whether our knowledge conforms to our criterion of truth.
If asked, “What would be its use in our everyday life?”, the answer is simple, and needs not to be complicated. Critical reflection can be used to know if what we know conforms to truth.
As I said earlier, we live in the times wherein information and knowledge; as well as “truth”, is made available in one touch of a button. It is not that I despise or ignore easy-sought and easy-found information. It is just but unreliable to gather these kinds of information these days, wherein knowledge is mixed with personal views and biased; furthermore endangering the very nature of knowledge. The internet, for example, is a mixture of both knowledge and information. Sometimes, people tend to believe whatever is written or stated in the Internet. But sometimes, people ask whether the given information is a source of knowledge, or just a bunch of garbage.
If critical reflection is to be made as the criterion or means to arrive to real knowledge and real truth, it would really help people, and even I myself to understand and accept whatever falls as true.
Just as one of the questions posted in every Lion’s Club monument is asking: Is it the truth?, I would base it on my critical reflection from now on.

3.) Certitude
Certitude is the state of the mind wherein one judges without the fear of committing error, or that state of the mind where the subject is really sure that his answer or knowledge is 7really true.
One of the kinds of certitude would be that of the spontaneous certitude, wherein one is certain over things that needed not to be explained or proved. Just like life. No one can deny that he lives (for those who are living, that is).
Knowledge and Truth are determined by Critical Reflection that is expressed in Certitude.
How can man be certain over things that he knows and believes? Sometimes man tends to believe everything that is given to him. Some men believe blindly over things that they think they know as true. Some believe like this to the extent that whatever comes as contradictory to what he is certain of…negates the possibility of the contradiction.
Some people are certain over things that are needed not to be explained, while others rely on the fact that to arrive at certitude, one has to subject it to proof-finding. If one cannot be proved, it is not true. And furthermore, it cannot be ascertained.
Certitude is needed in our everyday lives for the fact that we sometimes fall in doubt over our decisions and answers.
I just remembered another thing that can be used as an example for this topic. The game shows we see on TV, like “Game Ka Na Ba?”, “Deal or No Deal”, “Laban o Bawi” and the like are testing people, or their contestants whether: first, if they know the answer, and second, if they are sure or certain of their answers. Sometimes, its just sheer luck or by instinct (or just because they are running out of time to pick an answer) that they get it right. Sheer luck it may be, most often that the winners are sure and certain that their answers are based according to what they know.
However, back in the real world, certainty, or even simple assurance or state of being sure is needed. Being certain that what a person does is right, or what the person is avoiding as wrong.
Looking at one point, I can say that this life that we are living right now is like a game show (which came first, the show or life? Do I need to answer that?) Or rather, game shows are like our lives, we need to be certain, to judge without fear or error, in order to continue in this cycle of life.

4.) Prejudice/ Idols
Racist and those people who are biased in one way or another are clear examples of those who exercise prejudice. In our local setting, we have our own biases, such as attitudes of people from different places.
Furthermore, we tend to impose in ourselves ideas about these things prior to judgment. Thus, we end up “boxing” whatever we think. That wouldn’t be right.
I think that all of us are biased, in one way or another. Sometimes, it is hard to draw a line between prejudice and certitude. Why? It is because I think that in some way, when a person is certain or judges on one side over the other, he becomes biased. Also, simply placed, when one sides on one portion, he tends to leave the other. He becomes biased.
How can I see the difference between being prejudiced and being certain? Knowledge and Truth are determined by Critical Reflection that is expressed in Certitude. However, Certitude is often clouded by Prejudice, though it has been subjected to Critical Reflection. Our decisions or whatever we know can still be affected by the “idols” that is present in this world even if we subject it to our critical thinking.
This may be caused through the process of critical reflection, wherein I have to inherit a certain set of rules to guide my process of critical reflection. In doing so, I am already in a state of bias. Is there in any way that I can lose myself from bias? If there is, it may be if I leave judgment behind. If knowledge and truth is to be aborted, there is a chance that I can rid myself of bias, since I would no longer need critical reflection to be certain on things.
However, this posts a problem on the side of philosophy. If one is to reject knowledge, what becomes of man’s desire to know? What would happen to man’s dreams of achieving wisdom?
If knowledge and truth is to be rejected, and critical reflection be set aside, because of fear of becoming biased, man’s search for wisdom and truth ends. And in doing so, I think that man cannot fulfill his nature and capacity. What is rationality in man if man would not use it?
Therefore, I believe that it cannot be helped that man, philosophers or not, cannot escape from prejudice/ idols/ or even our plain biases in our search for truth and knowledge. It is a fact that when one judges, he judges or chooses one over the other. What is to choose if there is nothing to choose, anyway?
However, when one chooses, I hope that he chooses because he is already in the light of knowledge, truth, and certitude, with the use of critical reflection. Not with prejudice alone.

5.) Knowledge and Relativity
From the discussion on the topic at the first part, I would like to repeat the definition of Knowledge. Knowledge is the intellectual or cognitive union between the subject and the object, or between the subject and reality.
Relativity, or relativism, is a form of relativism, wherein one is against the absolute value or nature of truth, inasmuch as it denies the absolute value of knowledge.
We know that knowledge has a transcendental value, which also implies that knowledge has an absolute value. All men, according to the notes, are spontaneously certain that true knowledge or truth id independent from the empirical conditions of man. It further adds that what is true is true for all times, all places, and all men. And so on…
The empirical conditions of man such as tastes, laws, habits, and even customs change. However, it is said that the absolute nature of truth is not affected by these conditions.
It is not to be mistaken that the absolute value of truth is equivalent to what truth is as we know it. Even I have the difficulty of acknowledging the absolute value of truth.
Knowledge must conform to Truth, and both are subjected to Critical Reflection to arrive at Certitude, that is somehow affected still by Prejudices. Furthermore, due to the empirical conditions of man, the knowledge and truth produced from the earlier processes are affected by Relativity in some way.
I admit to the presence of Relativity in man. However, I deny the possibility of its absoluteness, since no one and there is no way where man can deny the absolute value of truth.
What is the use of Relativity, or how is Relativity present in our daily lives? Man, affected by the empirical conditions of life, have different perspectives on things that are in touch with them. Their cultures, religions, law, habits and others contribute to the different perceptions of man about what is known, what is known as true, what is known as true to be certain etc. However, in the degrees of truth, I believe that only the minor truths are somehow affected by the relativistic ideas based on empirical conditions. The major or absolute truths, however, remains the same.
Though man is enveloped in a society of different views, perspectives and beliefs, the absolute value of truth still remains in everyone. Though men, since many, are different in one way or another, there are still truths that bind them as one…absolute truths. Materially considered, truth has divisions, where relativity affects the minor, but nor the major.
I think the absolute value of truth works in a similar way.

6.) Error
Error is the positive absence or privation of truth.
Error can be seen many times in our lives, in form of mistakes. Mistakes in class, mistakes in exams, mistakes in decisions and many more are just some of those moments when we see error in our lives. How can this be?
In another topic, a philosophical system proposes that everything is just a projection of the mind. Therefore, everything is just according to the ideas and self-projections made by the mind.
If I would take the position of that system, I would think that everything around me is a projection of myself. And therefore, I know all of them.
If that’s the case, why do I make mistakes in exams or in decisions that I make? Why can I not remove any worry or uneasiness that I may fail my exam? Isn’t it absurd?
Error is one unavoidable fact that everyone experiences. May it be at work, in school, at home, or in oneself…error cannot be denied. I do not say that everyone always makes errors. However, everyone has mistakes or commit errors.
Going back to the absurdity of self-projection, it just came to me that one excuse can be that one just wants to make mistake. Would I want that, if that’s possible?
What is now the relevance of error in our everyday life? I would like to quote from the movie Batman Begins. Alfred asked Bruce Wayne, “Why do we fall?” of which the answer is, “So that we could learn to pick ourselves up”.
Error is inevitable. It comes in our lives. But we can use it to learn more. In terms of life, we commit mistakes but learning from them is better than just sitting and crying over it. Error in one way contributes in our desire to know. If we fail, that means that the road we took is not the right road for us to take. Error teaches us, in one way, to redirect ourselves and try to reach knowledge and truth, and further, to certitude.
Indeed, error is the absence of truth. However, it leads us to truth and certainty.
However, it is still within the power of the subject whether he acts according to the lesson learned from mistakes.

7.) Evidence and Motive of Certitude
The Motive of Certitude is “that which compels towards and assent”. For every proposition, there can be a motive compelling towards an assent. The motive into which all motives are resolved is called the ultimate or supreme or universal motive of certitude.
Evidence on the other hand is the “splendor of truth seizing the assent of the mind”. Evidence can also be seen as something needed to further strengthen an assent or certainty of a given proposition or judgment. It can be seen in two ways, either in the light of the object or in the light of the subject.
Knowledge is tried to be seen in the light of Truth, with the use of Critical Reflection to reach Certitude, somehow affected by Prejudice. Certainty has a view of Relativity that sometimes leads man to error. However, Certitude can be strengthened by Evidence. And Certitude is pointless if there is no “motivating force” for assent or reaching Certitude.
What makes man push to reach Certitude? I believe it is still man’s desire to attain knowledge and to achieve truth. Man is not contented with what he sees as knowledge. He tries to see it as true and certain. And this drives him to reach certitude.
Evidence, on the other hand, is the “added weight” for determining whether the knowledge known is true and certain. In analogy, evidence in court moves the judge according to it. If one is tried as guilty of any charge he is accused with, and is found as to be the one who did it because of the evidence at hand, he is charged as guilty. Evidence is like that, I believe and understood. If one is motivated to reach certainty, evidence is like a helping hand to further reach it.
What does it have to do in man’s everyday life? Just as man is in his constant journey towards knowledge and truth, he is unconsciously or consciously guided by his motives to reach it. He tends to find proofs or evidences along the way, and it helps him reach certainty.
Reaching truth is man’s motivation and certainty. Man is helped by evidence in reaching truth about things.
In one angle, I can see that the trial court is like life in general. Seems that since our life always has to deal with information, and decisions sometimes are needed to proceed. We are motivated to solve one case and another, and with help (evidence), we are assured to reach every end of a court case. And when decisions are made, its time to move to another…just like man’s desire to know…
Unending…continuous…fruitful.

“As for me, I wish not to take pride in anything except the cross of Christ”
Gal. 6:14

Wednesday, December 13, 2006

thanks...for bloggin!

i can say that my friends' blogs are good...why? for different reasons...

for one, i can see what they're doin...

second, some are well, posting eye-openers...of which i am really thankful

and, it keeps me on the ground and conscious of whatever is happening to me or around me...

also, it helps me to relax...

and many more...

so this goes out to my friends: joca, gino, zenda, laine, jenny, victor, jai, and for those others who are bloggin too...thanks for sharing your life with me...

upset? yah...

i am upset...right now.

i have been upset in the past, but silly me, i just dismissed it coz i don't want others to see of even bug me why.

what am i upset of?

who am i upset with?

hmmm...

Tuesday, December 12, 2006

Appreciation…

One time, I asked my friends in the youth ministry this question: “Which came first? the Chicken or the Egg?” Though I was unable to hear for their answers, considering that we don’t have much luxury of the time, I guess I just have to spill the beans of what I think are the points of that question. I just want to share, that’s all…

Actually, I really don’t care much about the answer, whether the chicken or the egg came first. What I care about most in these questions lies in what people see in it: the idea of appreciation.

Appreciation? It seems kind of far off the question. Well, I just thought that since we have the time to have ourselves answer that question, I would like to assume that we somehow appreciate the presence of both the chicken and the egg. Besides, who would have the idea of talking about something that is not relevant or in any matter important to them? Whatever we have right now, or whatever we are talking about now is seen as an object of our appreciation.

Now…a question. How much do we appreciate? Either may it be things or people, events or others, we appreciate them, in one way or another. Since my audience of this question is my co-members in the ministry, I would like to put it in an analogy, with relevance to our lives in the ministry.

I know we are all aware of the presence of each and everyone of us in the ministry. I know you are aware that I am a member, and so am I, coz I am aware that each and everyone of us are members of this ministry. However, awareness is not the only thing to boost ourselves in the communitarian life in the ministry. We also need to show appreciation for each and everyone, and everything that we have in our lives as youth ministers.

Hey…I know that we appreciate the presence and efforts of each and everyone of us in the ministry. However, do we show it? Now don’t tell me that it doesn’t need to be shown…what we think or say to another means a lot.

I would like to take this opportunity to ask you…since it’s the season of Christmas. Show your appreciation to our co-members, however big or small they may have. A tap on the shoulder, a smile from you, a gentle word…it’s up to you. Each of us is important in this ministry, so we have to have good relationships with them. May it be you are on “top”, or not…Without good relationships with our “team”, how can we suppose to have a good work going?

As I end this, let’s think about this: “Ei…it’s good that we thought about this…after all, now I know that fried chickens and eggs are important to me!” Zykes! I just hope we see the message, k? God bless everyone!

Inadequacies…

Man is indeed not contented…
And since I am a man…I am not contented
With what?
With everything…
Coz, why do I bother to ask if I’m already contented?
Why think if I’m contented of what I know?
Why love if I’m already contented of the love that was given to me…?
Why do everything that I’m doing if I’m already contented with the life I have now?

Man is indeed seeking perfection…
And since I am a man…I am seeking perfection
Perfection of what?
Perfection of the inadequacies and imperfections that we have in life…

Can I obtain it?
And if I obtained it, would I be able to understand it?
And if I understood it, would I be able to live in accordance to it?
And if I live in accordance to it, would I inspire others to do the same?
Or would I just bring them, as well as myself, to fall into the sea of more confusion?

Man…
Not contented…
Seeking Perfection…
Always asking questions…
Confused…

But, though man is as is, we have a GOD to back us up
God is man’s goal of contentedness…
God is man’s goal of perfection…
God ends man’s search for answers…
God ends man’s confusions…

GOD BLESS EVERYONE!

Actuality and Potentiality…

These are philosophical terms, which I think everything has...even man. In simple understanding, actuality for example is what man is now, and potentiality is what man may become. And since everything in existence is in the constant journey of change, man is not an exemption. Yes, both you and I are a mix of actuality and potentiality. We can never be pure actuality, or even pure potentiality.

Placing it simply, I just want to express this one: We change, no matter what happens. No one is stranded in one phase of his existence; we are always changing. The who we are in the what was then determined the who we are in the what is now that furthermore determines the who we are in the what may come.

But maybe, one of the questions may be: To which way do we gear ourselves for change? For better, or for worse?

Just remember, in some way, we control the way where we’re going…choose wisely.

Monday, December 11, 2006

uncertainties...

our future is uncertain, right?
lets just cruise along together...

my apologies...

for those who i offended, in word or deed...

for those who i thought of negatively...

for those who i forgot over time, or by circumstance...

for those who i lied to...

for those i hide my real self...

for those who see me negatively...

for those...for those...

Saturday, December 09, 2006

The reason behind why I don’t want to have a girlfriend yet…

Simple…
I only love one person, and she knows it.
She told me that I have to wait, so I wait.
I don’t care how long it would take me…
Love takes time, and it must not be in a hurry, right?

Baby, I love you so much, and I know that we have our priorities right now. I understand. No matter what happens, I will always be here for you, no matter what happens. If I’ll have to wait for so long, I’ll do it. It is because I love you, and I sincerely and truly love you. I love you so much…

Sadness…

I am sad…really.
I have been sad for the longest time that I know.
Why?
Coz I’m a liar.
Liar to someone I really love.
But I cannot tell her.
Why?
I am afraid…
Afraid of what?
Afraid of what she may say…
Say that may be the end of what could have been good without this.

To someone I really love,
I am really sorry for keeping this to you. Ever since I met you, I’ve felt that I love you so much. And I still do. Yet I cannot say this to you because I don’t want to lose that one thing that connects us, with or without each other’s presence. I love you, and I really, really do. I don’t know how to say this to you but this I am sure, that I am and will always be here for you. I just wish that I can be with you. I love you, yet I am just not sure about myself. I am afraid to hurt you. And I don’t want to see you hurt. So, maybe until that time comes that I can tell you how much I really love you, I’ll just be around the corner, suffering, and waiting for that day that you’ll see…
I love you, and I will always do.

La lang…

Who am I right now?
Sometimes, I feel like I am too spread wide that I cannot distinguish who I really am. Yet, I feel that if I constrict myself to a few, I am limiting the capacity of my being. I know I can do many things, and I can do things that I do not know yet if I’ll be given the chance to learn about them. I am seen as a different person by each person that I know. And I am seen differently in comparison to the places that I’ve been into.
Was I the only one who made these?
And now, I feel that the burden is somehow taking its effect on me, and I don’t like it (as if I have the choice)…
Yet, this does not stop me from achieving the things that I need and have to do. And the things that I do, I do not for myself, but for something or someone else.
Sometimes, we, and I in particular seem to set aside things that are to be given consideration and importance, in one way or another. Start from oneself, or myself, I say. Why? I cannot give or be someone to others without giving to myself.
If I can, that would be mere and lowly hypocrisy, which I really ticks me off.

Frustrations and Dreams

Being in the Student Council is fun, however, it is not always fun. It is not also always work, or serious, or anything in relation to it. First and foremost, I am not eligible (if the qualifications are to be taken into consideration) for the position, who is asking a student who already studied in our school for almost a year. I had stayed here in less than that. Actually, I was only here in this school for two months prior to my election and appointment. So, sometimes, I ask, “Am I really capable of handling things here in this school? How am I supposed to execute the things I need to do if I don’t know how to?”
Was it because that I am an ex-seminarian that they thought I can lead them? What were the reasons that I was nominated in the first place? What were their intentions in voting for me for this position? I, until now, am still in confusion.
I have to admit; sometimes I am “o.p.” (Out of place) since there are some matters that I don’t know. Yet these things challenge me to exert more effort on co-leading the students of the school. I am not a perfect leader, I know. But I can strive to be one. I do not have the ideal characteristics of a leader. But I can learn to be one.
I just hope that as I am in this position and term, I can do the best I can for them, and not for myself. I also hope that I can grow together with them as we go on this school year. Somehow, I know that I am growing. But I can’t take it if I am the only one growing.
Being a person in this position taught me many things; to be a better person, a better student, a better friend, a better co-worker…and a better leader.
I just hope that I can be more…yet I thank the Lord that I am made an instrument for service for other people…

A Friend Returns

August 16, a day that I can somehow remember where I found a friend…again. As I had in my previous blog, I lost a friend because of me… (well, of course!)
But that is not the topic now…to date, this day (Aug. 16) is the birthday of that person. Though we are not in good terms, it doesn’t mean that I would forget about her special day. So, days before this, I decided to buy her a gift. I went to Festival to buy her something that she could somehow use in her studies…so I bought for her a flash drive.
On her birthday, I decided to have someone have it to her, instead of myself, because somehow I am afraid of what she may say. So I gave it to our common friend and I left. He gave it to her and somehow, she saw me passing her way and said thank you. I decided not to take that chance yet to talk to her, but she insisted in talking to me. I obliged, and there it goes…we are ok again!
Oh well…I am just really thankful that our misunderstanding and gap is over.

A Friend Returns

August 16, a day that I can somehow remember where I found a friend…again. As I had in my previous blog, I lost a friend because of me… (well, of course!)
But that is not the topic now…to date, this day (Aug. 16) is the birthday of that person. Though we are not in good terms, it doesn’t mean that I would forget about her special day. So, days before this, I decided to buy her a gift. I went to Festival to buy her something that she could somehow use in her studies…so I bought for her a flash drive.
On her birthday, I decided to have someone have it to her, instead of myself, because somehow I am afraid of what she may say. So I gave it to our common friend and I left. He gave it to her and somehow, she saw me passing her way and said thank you. I decided not to take that chance yet to talk to her, but she insisted in talking to me. I obliged, and there it goes…we are ok again!
Oh well…I am just really thankful that our misunderstanding and gap is over.

Elevation in Timeline

I feel that my life here in Don Bosco is so fast…so fast that whatever is happening to me is so unusual for a student who is new at this school.
First, I inquired here the 28th of May this year, and immediately, I was reserved a spot for the enrollment, without even having an admission exam. They just looked at my documents, and poof! I am now a student of Don Bosco-Canlubang.
Ok, so I arrived here June 2006, after almost 5 days of Orientation and back-and-forth travel. But now, I stay in a dorm inside the dorm, and I go home in weekends. Somewhat the same as my former life…but I never actually missed that.
Now, fast forward to last week of July, I was invited by the Student Affairs’ Officer if I can join the Leadership Training Camp in Don Bosco Tabor House in Los BaƱos. I gladly accepted it, since I thought that this would be a chance for me to know new people from the school, since I am only a newbie. That is what I thought. Yah, it came true, but with some other extras with it.
The LT Camp was fun and interesting, and it really helped me reach other students. The activities are not only mere activities, but we found out later that through these activities, the facilitators are already eyeing for those potential leaders.
Here came the last day of the activities, where before we go home, we would have to decide who would run for the elections for the Student Council for that year. Who would have thought that I would join those people? I can still remember someone who asked me, “Would you like to be nominated?” I jokingly answered, “Kayo na ang bahala dyan, baka magsisi kayo!”
Nomination began, and to my surprise, I ended up as one of the nominees or candidates for the Student Council Elections of our school…
A week after, I won in the election for Vice-President for Internal Affairs. And a week after that, I swore into office.
Time flies…

Pain

This blog was supposed to be posted last July, but silly me, I always forget to post this one….
Anyway, from my recent post, I’ve written about those silly-minded actions I made with a friend, and true enough, that parting that I wrote is still going on…and it is not easy for me. The memory of what I did gives me the gloom every time I remember.
Still, many questions roam in my mind, like: “Why did I do that? Why can’t I mend the brokenness I feel? Why can’t I forgive? Why can’t I be forgiven?”
I still see her in the school, but every time that I do, I just look down, and during many times, I walk away; trying to avoid those painful memories again…
When will this pain go away?

A Friend lost…

I really never thought that what I had would be lost. And for this case, I lost a friend, just because of my selfishness and conceitedness.
But at one point, I asked myself, was I the one at fault? Or was the other person? I never really saw that coming. We were very good friends the moment we knew each other and I was sure then that it would not change. But I was wrong…
I met her when I attended the Orientation for new students in my new school, Don Bosco- Canlubang. She was my group mate for the whole 4 days that I came and went home. She called me Kuya, and true enough, she’s just a fresh graduate from high school, unlike me who had just transferred there. Those four days were wonderful, I learned from her, and vice-versa. She was beautiful, in her own respect, and she is wonderful in many ways.
Then here comes the beginning of the school year. We were the same; the only difference is that she has more friends now than before. I felt left out, but she assured me that everything was ok between us, and that she is not avoiding me in any way.
But silly me…I kept on being arrogant and closed-minded about things…to keep the story short, we parted ways, without me being able to know the whole picture.
Sometimes, it really takes someone to be lost in one’s life to know how stupid he has become…just like me.